Can you believe it's time to start thinking about Christmas planning? Even Thanksgiving is just around the corner! With all the hustle and bustle of the Holidays, take a moment to check out my BarbsBeading! web site and if any of these one-of-a-kind healing gifts would be the perfect gift for a family member or friends--or, yourself!
Each beaded piece is made with a special dose of healing and self-love--buyers have actually commented on how they can feel the intended emotional or physical healing and inspiration when they wear their piece. Here are a few of the comments from those who have bought and are wearing BarbsBeading! bracelets or necklaces:
"My bracelet feels as those it has magical energy! Thank you Barbara for your inspirational jewelry...it is healing my life." ~Jill
"I absolutely adore the bracelet Barbara made! I love wearing it and the way it feels: the weight of the bracelet on my wrist, the cool, smoothness of the seed beads, the beautiful, vibrant colors and the graceful dragonfly clasp. As soon as I put the bracelet on, my spirits lift and I am calmed. I highly recommend these gorgeous bracelets. They will make treasured gifts to give-but beware-they’ll be hard to part with!" ~Pat
"I love the elegant 'Star' bracelet. I've received so many compliments when I've worn this bracelet. It looks so rich, and feels smooth and lovely on my wrist." ~Paula
"I love my original one-of-a-kind cobalt blue and muti-color bracelet. It fits comfortably on my wrist and is easy to put on and take off. I love it!" ~Angela
"I love my turquoise bracelet with dragonfly clasp! It fits perfect and was obviously handmade with heartfelt care and fine skill. It also feels so wonderful on, I can't stop touching it! I've ordered several bracelets to give as gifts to my friends and they were all big hits! I definitely plan on ordering more in the near future." ~Cindy
To check out BarbsBeading! jewelry just go to:
Orders taken between November 1st to December 1st from the web site or my Facebook page will be given a 10% discount!! Please email me after you receive your inspired piece to have your positive comment added to the web site...
Peace and Joy,
Barbara~
Inspiration for Recovery
October 20, 2011
October 05, 2011
October Numerology Reading
I am sharing my reading for October through the wonderful Numerologist Christine DeLory.
It is so spot-on for my healing recovery from the loss of my husband a few months ago. You can find your own numbers and readings through Christine's web site at:
Wherever you have been pushing too hard, life will find a way to stop you from doing so this month. But don’t let it come to that. Stop trying to force your way ahead. You will achieve more by calming everything down, reducing the pressure on all concerned, including yourself, and simply accepting October’s diversions as they occur. Take one day at a time, and know that it is natural for you to be feeling highly sensitive, emotional and responsive right now. Attention to detail, patience, unity, and a truly caring attitude will serve you well.
Your physical body may experience unfamiliar sensations this month because it is feeling the effect of certain emotions that are pushing outwardly in an effort to free themselves. Remember that stress, (including physical pain), does not come from the emotions themselves, but from the level of resistance we put up against feeling them. No matter how ‘negative’ your feelings seem, the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to let yourself feel whatever is in there, express those feelings outwardly, privately and safely, let them go, and RELAX. Give yourself this kindness.
#1 is the number of ego and the sensitive energies of October are likely to effect yours substantially. Notice where you have been competing without even realizing it and, then, notice how your stress (and pain) is reduced when you replace rivalry and competition with patience and cooperation.
Stop trying to live up to other people’s ideals. Some of the greatest contributions to life have been made by people who ignored society’s ‘rules’ and simply did what they felt to be right.
Be tactful and helpful. This is not a matter of denying your own feelings, thoughts and needs, but of discovering what your current feelings, thoughts and needs actually are.
Others may be finding you difficult to relate to, or to understand what you are experiencing. You want them to be patient with you, but you will also need to be patient with them. More than anything, you must be patient with yourself and your own progress. Stop trying to push against forces which, at this time, you simply do not have the power to change. Make no major decisions because you will probably feel differently by the end of the month.
You now have a chance to form some kind of partnership in which individual talents can be combined. Cooperation is a two way street and, no matter who else is involved, each must feel free to request and give cooperation as needed. Trust is essential. Try to provide an atmosphere in which everyone can feel at ease, and you will find that the wheels of progress turn smoothly, instead of getting snagged on each other's insecurities, fears, resentment, impatience, or different viewpoints.
Slow it all down. You are experiencing a major transformation in your life. A new reality - a new beginning. Let it unfold as it needs to and you will experience the evolutionary power of your own patience.
October's slower and humbler pace will help you to heal, emotionally, mentally, and physically from the impact of past events - and you do need to heal from them. Don't overreact to what seems to be taking the focus away from you or your plans. This is happening to improve your overall timing. Instead of taking center stage, use this month to prepare for some kind of ‘entrance’ or ‘exit’ in November.
There is no need to avoid issues or people now. Face them and tactfully express where you stand and how you feel. Before you can move on, you need to relax with the people and situations that influence your life. Give them your support; listen to them; cooperate with them; focus on them; include them.
With the help of all my family andf friends, and inspirational people like Christine, I am learning to start a new life and a New Beginning.
Love & Joy,
Barbara~
Web Site: http://www.drsinor.com/
It is so spot-on for my healing recovery from the loss of my husband a few months ago. You can find your own numbers and readings through Christine's web site at:
The quest for certainty blocks the search for
meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition
which impels people to unfold their powers.
Eric Fromm
Wherever you have been pushing too hard, life will find a way to stop you from doing so this month. But don’t let it come to that. Stop trying to force your way ahead. You will achieve more by calming everything down, reducing the pressure on all concerned, including yourself, and simply accepting October’s diversions as they occur. Take one day at a time, and know that it is natural for you to be feeling highly sensitive, emotional and responsive right now. Attention to detail, patience, unity, and a truly caring attitude will serve you well.
Your physical body may experience unfamiliar sensations this month because it is feeling the effect of certain emotions that are pushing outwardly in an effort to free themselves. Remember that stress, (including physical pain), does not come from the emotions themselves, but from the level of resistance we put up against feeling them. No matter how ‘negative’ your feelings seem, the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to let yourself feel whatever is in there, express those feelings outwardly, privately and safely, let them go, and RELAX. Give yourself this kindness.
#1 is the number of ego and the sensitive energies of October are likely to effect yours substantially. Notice where you have been competing without even realizing it and, then, notice how your stress (and pain) is reduced when you replace rivalry and competition with patience and cooperation.
Stop trying to live up to other people’s ideals. Some of the greatest contributions to life have been made by people who ignored society’s ‘rules’ and simply did what they felt to be right.
Be tactful and helpful. This is not a matter of denying your own feelings, thoughts and needs, but of discovering what your current feelings, thoughts and needs actually are.
Others may be finding you difficult to relate to, or to understand what you are experiencing. You want them to be patient with you, but you will also need to be patient with them. More than anything, you must be patient with yourself and your own progress. Stop trying to push against forces which, at this time, you simply do not have the power to change. Make no major decisions because you will probably feel differently by the end of the month.
You now have a chance to form some kind of partnership in which individual talents can be combined. Cooperation is a two way street and, no matter who else is involved, each must feel free to request and give cooperation as needed. Trust is essential. Try to provide an atmosphere in which everyone can feel at ease, and you will find that the wheels of progress turn smoothly, instead of getting snagged on each other's insecurities, fears, resentment, impatience, or different viewpoints.
Slow it all down. You are experiencing a major transformation in your life. A new reality - a new beginning. Let it unfold as it needs to and you will experience the evolutionary power of your own patience.
October's slower and humbler pace will help you to heal, emotionally, mentally, and physically from the impact of past events - and you do need to heal from them. Don't overreact to what seems to be taking the focus away from you or your plans. This is happening to improve your overall timing. Instead of taking center stage, use this month to prepare for some kind of ‘entrance’ or ‘exit’ in November.
There is no need to avoid issues or people now. Face them and tactfully express where you stand and how you feel. Before you can move on, you need to relax with the people and situations that influence your life. Give them your support; listen to them; cooperate with them; focus on them; include them.
With the help of all my family andf friends, and inspirational people like Christine, I am learning to start a new life and a New Beginning.
Love & Joy,
Barbara~
Web Site: http://www.drsinor.com/
September 15, 2011
New e-Magazine: Thrive in Life
I was asked to write articles in a new e-Magazine called "Thrive in Life." It is a great collection of various articles on topics ranging from insight to inspiration. Here is a link to my first contribution:
Much of the article is excertped from my book Gifts From the Child Within published in a 2nd Edition in 2008. Here is a link on my web site to view this book:
I hope enjoy learning about your inner child and how to heal past childhood woundedness. Working on issues from our past can be both painful and rewarding--allow yourself time to do this inner work. Many great exercises and insightful ways of dealing with trauma and past negative experiences can be found within this healing book.
Love your Self,
Barbara~
Amazon.com link to buy this book:
Amazon.com link to buy this book:
September 11, 2011
A Book for Today: 911
Open this book to any page and receive inspiration and hope for recovery from any trauma, especially as experienced by 911. This book contains insight and healing messages for anyone on recovery journey. It was written for addiction recovery, however, can be read by anyone going through recovery from loss, childhood trauma, or current challenges.
August 22, 2011
Grief's Shadow
I started writing again -- here is my first poem:
Grief’s Shadow
I am living in our physical dimension
My son and husband are living in theirs--
I sense the connection
Like the sound of my chime’s vibration.
I sit, I listen
If I were deaf
Would I grieve the same?
My birds are balanced on the back fence
Playing tag.
The wind chimes singing their metal tune
Claiming the air with sound.
Fall seems imminently close
I will miss the rays of light
Glittering off the cottonwood leaves.
I will miss the warm mornings
On the deck
Silently listening…
My hummingbirds venture to hang in the air
Two feet from my face
To whisper thoughts
Of healing
The summer squash
Is nearly ready--
Sweet yellow jewels
Mr. Jay picks at his black seeds
Nodding to me a ‘thank you.’
Where are you David?
In a classroom of spirits reflecting past journeys?
Sitting beside me smiling that little smile?
Flying again with loved ones?
Where have you gone my beloved?
Our fruit trees withheld their fruit this year, and
David left…
Thank you for all your prayers....
Barbara~
Grief’s Shadow
I am living in our physical dimension
My son and husband are living in theirs--
I sense the connection
Like the sound of my chime’s vibration.
I sit, I listen
If I were deaf
Would I grieve the same?
My birds are balanced on the back fence
Playing tag.
The wind chimes singing their metal tune
Claiming the air with sound.
Fall seems imminently close
I will miss the rays of light
Glittering off the cottonwood leaves.
I will miss the warm mornings
On the deck
Silently listening…
My hummingbirds venture to hang in the air
Two feet from my face
To whisper thoughts
Of healing
The summer squash
Is nearly ready--
Sweet yellow jewels
Mr. Jay picks at his black seeds
Nodding to me a ‘thank you.’
Where are you David?
In a classroom of spirits reflecting past journeys?
Sitting beside me smiling that little smile?
Flying again with loved ones?
Where have you gone my beloved?
Our fruit trees withheld their fruit this year, and
David left…
Thank you for all your prayers....
Barbara~
August 07, 2011
More Reflections...
Hello Everyone,
Many of you know that I have recently lost my husband and that my life has, yet again, taken a curve along my life's path. It is surreal that I would be going through this grief process again so soon...
My words are not flowing like they usually do when I sit down to write; it's like searching for what to say and write instead of opening to the thoughts and automatically letting them shine on the page. I know this will become easier as the weeks and months pass, so I have set aside my new book to write in my personal journal once again. I say "once again" for all those who have read Tales of Addiction know I have been through the pain of loss before.
David, my dear husband, was a gentle, loving, generous man to all he met. He lived a life of a solid work ethic and being of service to those who were in need of his talents. His big smile and shining eyes will be missed by many. Our life together (this lifetime) began when I was fifteen and he was nineteen years old. Sweethearts until his passing, those fifty years seemed to fly by and yet, held many small lifetimes within them.
One of my dear girl friends resited the poem below at David's memorial service which is so perfect and captures so much of what he loved:
Deep wet moss and cool blue shadows
Beneath a bending fir,
And the purple solitude of mountains,
When only the dark owls stir --
Oh, there will come a day, a twilight,
When I shall sink to rest
In deep wet moss and cool blue shadows
Upon a mountain's breast,
And yield a body torn with passions,
And bruised with earthly scares,
To the cool oblivion of evening,
Of solitude and stars.
~Lew Sarett
Love & Joy,
Barbara~
Many of you know that I have recently lost my husband and that my life has, yet again, taken a curve along my life's path. It is surreal that I would be going through this grief process again so soon...
My words are not flowing like they usually do when I sit down to write; it's like searching for what to say and write instead of opening to the thoughts and automatically letting them shine on the page. I know this will become easier as the weeks and months pass, so I have set aside my new book to write in my personal journal once again. I say "once again" for all those who have read Tales of Addiction know I have been through the pain of loss before.
David, my dear husband, was a gentle, loving, generous man to all he met. He lived a life of a solid work ethic and being of service to those who were in need of his talents. His big smile and shining eyes will be missed by many. Our life together (this lifetime) began when I was fifteen and he was nineteen years old. Sweethearts until his passing, those fifty years seemed to fly by and yet, held many small lifetimes within them.
One of my dear girl friends resited the poem below at David's memorial service which is so perfect and captures so much of what he loved:
Deep wet moss and cool blue shadows
Beneath a bending fir,
And the purple solitude of mountains,
When only the dark owls stir --
Oh, there will come a day, a twilight,
When I shall sink to rest
In deep wet moss and cool blue shadows
Upon a mountain's breast,
And yield a body torn with passions,
And bruised with earthly scares,
To the cool oblivion of evening,
Of solitude and stars.
~Lew Sarett
Love & Joy,
Barbara~
July 03, 2011
Reflections...
I have learned many lessons over the past several decades about the ravages that addiction to drugs and alcohol takes from the soul. The devastation spreads from the addicted individual to outer parameters of his/her family and friends until its limits turn inward upon itself to crumble our society and ultimately our nation. While learning to quasi-cope with a loved one’s addiction, it becomes necessary to learn the ins-n-outs of the disease, this is not an easy task. Everyone has their own viewpoint about the specifics of drug and alcohol addiction; therefore, it quickly becomes that following your own inner guidance is a must in unraveling a palatable hypothesis for oneself.
While the decades of my own family’s addiction to alcohol unraveled, I learned there is no right way to love an alcoholic… only that you must. I learned that asking for guidance from others counts, but cannot be the final tally for actions and reactions to ensue. I learned that trusting one’s Self is eminent in the face of danger, fear, and choice; and, that danger, fear, and choice comes even without our addicted loved one’s presence. I learned compassion is sometimes elusive, but always within reach and is a potent healing agent. I learned that tomorrows are in the hands of that Something More which we have all co-created from many soul journeys.
Since the publication of "Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery" one year ago, I have received many letters supporting the book’s philosophy. I had not thought of my contributing words between the heartfelt addiction stories found within this book to be a philosophy, however, I can discern a common thread stitching my thoughts together. That thread is Compassion. I fast learned with my son’s addiction, without compassion there is no acceptance… without acceptance, there is no love. How can we have compassion for our addicted loved ones? How can we not…
My son’s life lessons also impacted my own. I was able to grasp an understanding of the importance of attaining compassion toward those we do not know. The hundreds of individuals who have connected with me online and off since this book’s release have given me the insight that we can generate compassion for all others throughout the globe. I quote His Holiness The Dalai Lama many times in the book--one quote I especially like is:
“True world peace can only be achieved through peace of mind. And peace of mind springs from a genuine realization that all human beings are brothers and sisters. Different ideologies and different political or economic systems are only secondary; the most important point is that we are all the same human beings, living on one small planet.”
With this knowledge, compassion for all our brothers and sisters seems easy enough, right? But, what about the drug addict on the corner? What about the drunk in the neighborhood bar? Or, the kid down the street smoking pot? Do we have the same compassion for these individuals as we do our brothers and sisters across the globe? Compassion is not to be used selectively… compassion is an open heart for all--addicted or not.
One letter I received after the sender read Tales of Addiction came from a woman trying hard to keep her compassion toward her alcoholic mother. In the letter was a poem she had written, it claims much of my own emotions:
Caught
I hate you, I love you
This back and forth emotion
This up and down feeling
This stop and start life
Breathing in and breathing out
Getting up and falling down
Hiding while crying
Living while dying
Believing in nothing
Questions in the night
My soul in shadow
No one in sight
Bitterness screaming
Hopeful dreaming
Lost and alone
No place called home
Hating you, Loving you
Saving, then losing you
Finally free
Saving me
Learning to breathe
*Printed with permission
In the Introduction of "Tales of Addiction," I wrote, “Addicted or not, we all have stories to tell.” As you find the words to tell your story, search for the lessons you have uncovered. The whys, hows, choices and decisions are not the insights needed to attain in dealing with addiction. Tell the story of the lessons you have discovered from learning how to have compassion for yourself and/or your addicted loved one--tell how these lessons have changed your life. Addicted or not, if we all strive for these lessons in growth, our addiction population will begin to fade.
Another letter I received from a reader, and one of the book’s addiction story contributors, touched my soul deeply. In appreciation, I share it with permission:
Hi Barbara,
I had some time put aside to share as promised about the life changing lesson you and your Richard had taught me after re-reading your "Journal" in Tales of Addiction which I have to say touched me more than words could possibly convey. One of my abrasive attitudes before reading your Journal was that I had made a conscious unmovable decision. After attending so many funerals and memorials for addicts and alcoholics who had passed away from these ravaging diseases, I decided that I was done....
My abrasiveness wasn’t bred from ego, but from the deep heart-wrenching sadness and devastation I felt at someone’s memorial service. I could not stand the feelings and witnessing the family members who were left in the wake of this pain and senselessness.
I read and re-read all you shared and it was as if a light bulb went off…I understood my powerful lesson and I felt deep shame. You are absolutely right in asking us to challenge our thinking as to why someone who lost their battle with addiction is any less worthy of celebrating their life. Are they less important because they had a disease? Perhaps this was their path? Is it any less perfect than ours?
I will be going to memorials now, and funerals, hospitals and institutions. Barbara, I thought God put you in my life for my story of inspiration, but today I know it was because of yours. Thank you. I thank you and Richard for teaching me, helping me to open my heart again and my mind.
With deep affection and gratitude,
Kat
Being open to our lessons in life is not an easy task. But, when learning to have compassion for ourselves and others, it is a requirement if we are to move forward on our soul’s journey. I wish you a safe journey.
Love & Joy,
Barbara~
June 16, 2011
Making Changes...
Beginning again in whatever situation one faces in life can seem like an overwhelming task. Many times life just throws us a curve along our path that seem to take us to a deadend. One of the hardest things is feeling stuck in a situation that we don’t like and we wish to change. We may have exhausted ourselves trying to figure out how to make changes, and we may have even given up on a certain area in our life. However, each new day offers us the opportunity to renew our resolve and to declare to the Universe that we are ready for change.
Many times, it is difficult to understand, even with hindsight, how the choices we have made in the past have created our current situations. It is a good idea to examine the story we tell ourselves about how we arrived in our present situation. If we tend to regard ourselves as having failed at a task or situation, this will block our ability to allow ourselves to succeed. We have the power to change the story we tell ourselves by acknowledging that we have done our best. With insight, knowledge, and support, we have made our best decisions for our life in the past. We can remember the many positive moments on our path to this present moment. We can also recognize that we have learned from our experiences, this will help us determine what our current choices might be, and how to go about making them.
When we do this kind of inner work of viewing our past, we make it possible for the future to be based on a positive self-assessment. This inner shift may allow us to exit the cycle we have been on which keeps us stuck in the past. When we do this kind of inner work of viewing our past, we can declare our intentions to the Universe knowing that we have done what was necessary to allow our lives to change…to begin anew.
Today, you can declare this day to be the day you will end negative habits, cycles, or patterns. You can declare this day to move forward from past emotional pain, anger, and guilt. Today, you can enter into a new way of being. Today, you can declare this day to begin searching for the lessons of past experiences--learn from them, and move into the present!
Love & Joy,
Barbara~
May 30, 2011
New Beginnings continued...
Let's continue with the topic of New Beginnings --
After an emotional experience, there will be a time for you to bring your life forward, and to be visible on your present stage of life. Choose options that uplift and inspire you, and whenever possible, engage in positive thinking. It may also be time for a health makeover, a change in environment, or a renewal to your outlook on life. Remember, New Beginnings require us to plant new seeds for our future, so make sure those seeds contain all the ingredients to reflect what you desire for your present and future life.
When renewal and New Beginnings are at hand, we need to clarify what has worked for us and what has not so we can choose only that which takes us forward on our journey. We all have the ability to make minor, or even major breakthroughs any time we choose--this can be an exciting concept! It’s called freedom of choice!! Here is a great affirmation you can use to claim this freedom of choice:
"Today, I make the choice to end a cycle or way of being that is not in alignment with my soul’s desire."
Sometimes, we may say to ourselves that we have tried, we have struggled, and we still have not found a way to begin again. If this is true for you, allow yourself to be open to support and guidance from the physical loved ones around you, and also the non-physical masters, teachers, guides, and angels that are always with you. State your intention out loud in prayer or meditation--keep it positive and simple, such as: ”I am creating the changes I need at this time.” Making this declaration to the Divine Universe, and to yourself, may be the remedy for the stagnation you may be experiencing.
More on New Beginnings next time,
Barbara~
April 27, 2011
New Beginnings
Happy Spring Everyone! This is the time of year for New Beginnings....
We all know that New Beginnings can happen in a instant. By giving ourselves permission to begin a new day, a new path, a new way of thinking-- we can choose to “begin again.” We experience New Beginnings many times in our lives. Take a moment to look at your own life, your past experiences. Think about the new ways in which you have needed to begin again many times throughout your life.
New Beginnings can happen when you began a new job or career--A new diet or exercise program---A new relationship--A new kind of worship or meditation practice. Also, when you begin a new school or educational training. Have you recently acquired a new pet or had a new baby enter the family? Definitely, a New Beginning! New Beginnings can happen when you have been challenged with a new health issue; or, if you have recently been married, divorced, or even experienced a death of a family member or friend.
Each time we journey on a new path to experience a New Beginning, it is important to consciously allow ourselves to review, process emotions--especially forgiveness--and learn to accept our new path. Also, before we move toward a New Beginning, it is important to learn the lessons from our past experience. One way to do this is to ask ourselves questions such as: What do I know now that I did not know before this experience? Why was it important for me to learn this truth or lesson? Do I need to forgive others or myself before I move forward?
I like to remember the following quote from Numerologist Christine DeLorey when thinking about learning lessons from the past: "Stop holding your past at arms length as if you are afraid that it will catch up with you. It's meant to! Let it! The past is filled with knowledge and experience, and what it has to teach you needs to be accepted into the present. Only then will you be able to feel, sense, and create what you want."
Have a wonderful Spring filled with compassion and joy!
Barbara~
We all know that New Beginnings can happen in a instant. By giving ourselves permission to begin a new day, a new path, a new way of thinking-- we can choose to “begin again.” We experience New Beginnings many times in our lives. Take a moment to look at your own life, your past experiences. Think about the new ways in which you have needed to begin again many times throughout your life.
New Beginnings can happen when you began a new job or career--A new diet or exercise program---A new relationship--A new kind of worship or meditation practice. Also, when you begin a new school or educational training. Have you recently acquired a new pet or had a new baby enter the family? Definitely, a New Beginning! New Beginnings can happen when you have been challenged with a new health issue; or, if you have recently been married, divorced, or even experienced a death of a family member or friend.
Each time we journey on a new path to experience a New Beginning, it is important to consciously allow ourselves to review, process emotions--especially forgiveness--and learn to accept our new path. Also, before we move toward a New Beginning, it is important to learn the lessons from our past experience. One way to do this is to ask ourselves questions such as: What do I know now that I did not know before this experience? Why was it important for me to learn this truth or lesson? Do I need to forgive others or myself before I move forward?
I like to remember the following quote from Numerologist Christine DeLorey when thinking about learning lessons from the past: "Stop holding your past at arms length as if you are afraid that it will catch up with you. It's meant to! Let it! The past is filled with knowledge and experience, and what it has to teach you needs to be accepted into the present. Only then will you be able to feel, sense, and create what you want."
Have a wonderful Spring filled with compassion and joy!
Barbara~
March 12, 2011
Dreams, Intuition, and Metaphysics
I wasn't sure I wanted to post this personal experience, but then after telling it a few times to friends I have decided it may be interesting to others. Many times we disregard our intuitional selves keeping our dreams, visions, insights and hunches to ourselves. But if we are brave enough to share them with others perhaps there would be more like-minded people coming together! So, with this introduction let me tell you the dream I had on the night of the terrible 8.9 Earthquake in Japan. Actually, I realized I was astral traveling!
I was with my husband and daughter walking around Disneyland. My daughter went off in the opposite direction and many other people were very confused. I told my husband I must go look for our daughter and he said, "Okay."
I walked all around seeing people going in many different directions, then I found a sort-of pathway and started down it. I walked for miles but could not find my daughter. Finally, I arrived at a large intersection with five streets coming into it. It was lighted very well with lots of lights and signs and many men were standing around on the corners.
I felt afraid--I was lost. I thought about calling 911 but didn't know if that would work. I had only one "bar" left on my cell phone and was afraid I wouldn't be able to get anyone! I dailed my husband's number. He answered right away and asked, "Where are you?"
I said, "I am lost!"
He asked me to tell him what the street signs said. I looked at them all but they were just "hatch-marks." I could not read them! I told him I could see the Disneyland roller coaster to my right, it looked several miles away. He said he would come try to find me but if he wasn't there in fifteen minutes to try to find a taxi and get back to Disneyland.
Then I woke up!!
That morning I told the dream to my husband and we both laughed. Neither one of us knew of a Disneyland in Japan! But, then I turned on the television to watch the news like we always do in the mornings. The second picture I saw on the screen was hundreds of people sitting on the ground at the Disneyland in Japan!! My husband looked at me and said, "Your dream!!"
I started to cry and felt much pain for the many people I was seeing on the news. No wonder I couldn't read the signs, they were in Japanese! Then I realized my soul (Higher Self) must have been astral traveling in the night to guide many of them.....
I have had many prophetic dreams in my life and this one was as real as if I had been in Japan physically. I believe when there is a need for our Higher Self, our soul, to aid others, it will use all means necessary, even astral travel, to do so. If you had an insightful intuition or dream before or during this horrific event, please share it here or with others. Our soul Self is always trying to guide us if we but listen.....
Namaste'
Barbara~
I was with my husband and daughter walking around Disneyland. My daughter went off in the opposite direction and many other people were very confused. I told my husband I must go look for our daughter and he said, "Okay."
I walked all around seeing people going in many different directions, then I found a sort-of pathway and started down it. I walked for miles but could not find my daughter. Finally, I arrived at a large intersection with five streets coming into it. It was lighted very well with lots of lights and signs and many men were standing around on the corners.
I felt afraid--I was lost. I thought about calling 911 but didn't know if that would work. I had only one "bar" left on my cell phone and was afraid I wouldn't be able to get anyone! I dailed my husband's number. He answered right away and asked, "Where are you?"
I said, "I am lost!"
He asked me to tell him what the street signs said. I looked at them all but they were just "hatch-marks." I could not read them! I told him I could see the Disneyland roller coaster to my right, it looked several miles away. He said he would come try to find me but if he wasn't there in fifteen minutes to try to find a taxi and get back to Disneyland.
Then I woke up!!
That morning I told the dream to my husband and we both laughed. Neither one of us knew of a Disneyland in Japan! But, then I turned on the television to watch the news like we always do in the mornings. The second picture I saw on the screen was hundreds of people sitting on the ground at the Disneyland in Japan!! My husband looked at me and said, "Your dream!!"
I started to cry and felt much pain for the many people I was seeing on the news. No wonder I couldn't read the signs, they were in Japanese! Then I realized my soul (Higher Self) must have been astral traveling in the night to guide many of them.....
I have had many prophetic dreams in my life and this one was as real as if I had been in Japan physically. I believe when there is a need for our Higher Self, our soul, to aid others, it will use all means necessary, even astral travel, to do so. If you had an insightful intuition or dream before or during this horrific event, please share it here or with others. Our soul Self is always trying to guide us if we but listen.....
Namaste'
Barbara~
February 22, 2011
Reflections
Today is February 23rd. For those who have read Tales of Addiction, you know how important this date is to me and my family. As I reflect upon my experiences surrounding this day two years ago, I began to think about how I have changed. I have learned many lessons over the past several decades about the ravages that addiction to drugs and alcohol takes from the soul. The devastation spreads from the addicted individual to outer parameters of his/her family and friends until its limits turn inward upon itself to crumble our society and ultimately our nation. While learning to quasi-cope with a loved one’s addiction, it becomes necessary to learn the ins-n-outs of the disease, this is not an easy task. Everyone has their own viewpoint about the specifics of drug and alcohol addiction; therefore, it quickly becomes that following your own inner guidance is a must in unraveling a palatable hypothesis for oneself.
While the decades of our own family’s addiction turmoil unraveled, I learned there is no right way to love an alcoholic… only that you must. I learned that asking for guidance from others counts, but cannot be the final tally for actions and reactions to ensue. I learned that trusting one’s Self is eminent in the face of danger, fear, and choice; and, that danger, fear, and choice comes even without our addicted loved one’s presence. I learned compassion is sometimes elusive, but always within reach and is a potent healing agent. I learned that tomorrows are in the hands of that Something More which we have all co-created from many soul journeys.
Since the publication of Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery one year ago, I have received many letters supporting the book’s philosophy. I had not thought of my contributing words between the heartfelt addiction stories found within this book to be a philosophy, however, I can discern a common thread stitching my thoughts together. That thread is Compassion. I fast learned with my son’s addiction, without compassion there is no acceptance… without acceptance, there is no love. How can we have compassion for our addicted loved ones? How can we not…
My son’s life lessons also impacted my own. I was able to grasp an understanding of the importance of attaining compassion toward those we do not know. The hundreds of individuals who have connected with me online and off since this book’s release have given me the insight that we can generate compassion for all others throughout the globe. I quote His Holiness The Dalai Lama many times in the book--one quote I especially like is:
With this knowledge, compassion for all our brothers and sisters seems easy enough, right? But, what about the drug addict on the corner? What about the drunk in the neighborhood bar? Or, the kid down the street smoking pot? Do we have the same compassion for these individuals as we do our brothers and sisters across the globe? Compassion is not to be used selectively… compassion is an open heart for all--addicted or not.
One letter I received after the sender read Tales of Addiction came from a woman trying hard to keep her compassion toward her alcoholic mother. In the letter was a poem she had written, it claims much of my own emotions:
In the Introduction, I wrote, “Addicted or not, we all have stories to tell.” As you find the words to tell your story, search for the lessons you have uncovered. The whys, hows, choices and decisions are not the insights needed to attain in dealing with addiction. Tell the story of the lessons you have discovered from learning how to have compassion for yourself and/or your addicted loved one--tell how these lessons have changed your life. Addicted or not, if we all strive for these lessons in growth, our addiction population will begin to fade.
Another letter I received from a reader, and one of the book’s addiction story contributors, touched my soul deeply. In appreciation, I share it with permission:
Hi Barbara,
I had some time put aside to share as promised about the life changing lesson you and your Richard had taught me after re-reading your "Journal" in Tales of Addiction which I have to say touched me more than words could possibly convey. One of my abrasive attitudes before reading your Journal was that I had made a conscious unmovable decision. After attending so many funerals and memorials for addicts and alcoholics who had passed away from these ravaging diseases, I decided that I was done....
My abrasiveness wasn’t bred from ego, but from the deep heart-wrenching sadness and devastation I felt at someone’s memorial service. I could not stand the feelings and witnessing the family members who were left in the wake of this pain and senselessness.
I read and re-read all you shared and it was as if a light bulb went off…I understood my powerful lesson and I felt deep shame. You are absolutely right in asking us to challenge our thinking as to why someone who lost their battle with addiction is any less worthy of celebrating their life. Are they less important because they had a disease? Perhaps this was their path? Is it any less perfect than ours?
I will be going to memorials now, and funerals, hospitals and institutions. Barbara, I thought God put you in my life for my story of inspiration, but today I know it was because of yours. Thank you. I thank you and Richard for teaching me, helping me to open my heart again and my mind.
With deep affection and gratitude,
Kat
Being open to our lessons in life is not an easy task. But, when learning to have compassion for ourselves and others, it is a requirement if we are to move forward on our soul’s journey. I wish you all a safe journey.
Barbara~
While the decades of our own family’s addiction turmoil unraveled, I learned there is no right way to love an alcoholic… only that you must. I learned that asking for guidance from others counts, but cannot be the final tally for actions and reactions to ensue. I learned that trusting one’s Self is eminent in the face of danger, fear, and choice; and, that danger, fear, and choice comes even without our addicted loved one’s presence. I learned compassion is sometimes elusive, but always within reach and is a potent healing agent. I learned that tomorrows are in the hands of that Something More which we have all co-created from many soul journeys.
Since the publication of Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery one year ago, I have received many letters supporting the book’s philosophy. I had not thought of my contributing words between the heartfelt addiction stories found within this book to be a philosophy, however, I can discern a common thread stitching my thoughts together. That thread is Compassion. I fast learned with my son’s addiction, without compassion there is no acceptance… without acceptance, there is no love. How can we have compassion for our addicted loved ones? How can we not…
My son’s life lessons also impacted my own. I was able to grasp an understanding of the importance of attaining compassion toward those we do not know. The hundreds of individuals who have connected with me online and off since this book’s release have given me the insight that we can generate compassion for all others throughout the globe. I quote His Holiness The Dalai Lama many times in the book--one quote I especially like is:
“True world peace can only be achieved through peace of mind. And peace of mind springs from a genuine realization that all human beings are brothers and sisters. Different ideologies and different political or economic systems are only secondary; the most important point is that we are all the same human beings, living on one small planet.”
With this knowledge, compassion for all our brothers and sisters seems easy enough, right? But, what about the drug addict on the corner? What about the drunk in the neighborhood bar? Or, the kid down the street smoking pot? Do we have the same compassion for these individuals as we do our brothers and sisters across the globe? Compassion is not to be used selectively… compassion is an open heart for all--addicted or not.
One letter I received after the sender read Tales of Addiction came from a woman trying hard to keep her compassion toward her alcoholic mother. In the letter was a poem she had written, it claims much of my own emotions:
Caught
I hate you, I love you
This back and forth emotion
This up and down feeling
This stop and start life
Breathing in and breathing out
Getting up and falling down
Hiding while crying
Living while dying
Believing in nothing
Questions in the night
My soul in shadow
No one in sight
Bitterness screaming
Hopeful dreaming
Lost and alone
No place called home
Hating you, Loving you
Saving, then losing you
Finally free
Saving me
Learning to breathe
*Printed with permission
Another letter I received from a reader, and one of the book’s addiction story contributors, touched my soul deeply. In appreciation, I share it with permission:
Hi Barbara,
I had some time put aside to share as promised about the life changing lesson you and your Richard had taught me after re-reading your "Journal" in Tales of Addiction which I have to say touched me more than words could possibly convey. One of my abrasive attitudes before reading your Journal was that I had made a conscious unmovable decision. After attending so many funerals and memorials for addicts and alcoholics who had passed away from these ravaging diseases, I decided that I was done....
My abrasiveness wasn’t bred from ego, but from the deep heart-wrenching sadness and devastation I felt at someone’s memorial service. I could not stand the feelings and witnessing the family members who were left in the wake of this pain and senselessness.
I read and re-read all you shared and it was as if a light bulb went off…I understood my powerful lesson and I felt deep shame. You are absolutely right in asking us to challenge our thinking as to why someone who lost their battle with addiction is any less worthy of celebrating their life. Are they less important because they had a disease? Perhaps this was their path? Is it any less perfect than ours?
I will be going to memorials now, and funerals, hospitals and institutions. Barbara, I thought God put you in my life for my story of inspiration, but today I know it was because of yours. Thank you. I thank you and Richard for teaching me, helping me to open my heart again and my mind.
With deep affection and gratitude,
Kat
Being open to our lessons in life is not an easy task. But, when learning to have compassion for ourselves and others, it is a requirement if we are to move forward on our soul’s journey. I wish you all a safe journey.
Barbara~
February 20, 2011
Co-Dependency--Take Two
I just finished posting an article on the new Addictionland Blog. It is copied here for my followers to read and comment as well. Excerpts are taken from my book Gifts From the Child Within, 2009.
When my mother first started reading my initial manuscript for Gifts From The Child Within, she looked up at me and asked, "What do you mean in the Introduction by my being a co-dependent?" My mother, being an intelligent and well-read person, caught me by surprise with her genuine lack of knowledge about the meaning of codependence. I found myself somewhat embarrassed about the necessity to explain to my mother, what for most of my life, I saw her doing with hers.
I realized I had few words to describe to her just what being codependent meant. I tried using phases such as, "too dependent on her husband," "not caring enough about herself," and "restricting her own life because of her husband's demands." These broken sentences came easily but still did not touch on the real feelings I associated with the term codependent. Finally, I looked at her and said softly, "Mom, it just means that you cared so much for Daddy that somewhere along the way you lost yourself." She understood and accepting this definition, lowered her head to continue reading.
The surge of interest in the recovery field has led us to this nebulous issue of "codependence." Some leading experts claim we all have a codependent-self, a side of us which withdraws, avoids, and denies our true Self. Others maintain codependence is a disease or illness which requires psychological methodologies and sometimes medical intervention! To assume an illness one must demonstrate a physiological, psychological, or emotional dysfunction; therefore, to label one who nurtures and cares deeply for others codependent under this rationale would commit 99% of our female population to pathology! Only when one is nurturing others to the exclusion of themselves can the ill effects of codependency be labeled unhealthy.
One of the latest definitions of what constitutes a codependent personality comes from a group of professionals who spent several hours of deliberation to confirm: "Co-dependency is a pattern of painful dependency on compulsive behaviors and on approval from others in an attempt to find safety, self-worth and identity. Recovery is possible." This is a good working definition; however, we must remember, codependency is an individual game played by two. We must not forget it takes two to form a codependent relationship.
As much as I desired not to “be a codependent” like my mother, I certainly found myself in that position with my alcoholic son. It took all the strength and several years to break my learned habit of codependent behavior. You can read more about my struggles with my son in my newest recovery book, Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery, released May 2010. [If you like this article please share below with your friends on Facebook, Twitter, etc.]
Love & Light,
Barbara~
Codependency--Take Two
We heal by remembering, literally bringing back
into the wholeness of our being
that which we have lost by hiding it
from ourselves.
Joan Borysenko
When my mother first started reading my initial manuscript for Gifts From The Child Within, she looked up at me and asked, "What do you mean in the Introduction by my being a co-dependent?" My mother, being an intelligent and well-read person, caught me by surprise with her genuine lack of knowledge about the meaning of codependence. I found myself somewhat embarrassed about the necessity to explain to my mother, what for most of my life, I saw her doing with hers.
I realized I had few words to describe to her just what being codependent meant. I tried using phases such as, "too dependent on her husband," "not caring enough about herself," and "restricting her own life because of her husband's demands." These broken sentences came easily but still did not touch on the real feelings I associated with the term codependent. Finally, I looked at her and said softly, "Mom, it just means that you cared so much for Daddy that somewhere along the way you lost yourself." She understood and accepting this definition, lowered her head to continue reading.
The surge of interest in the recovery field has led us to this nebulous issue of "codependence." Some leading experts claim we all have a codependent-self, a side of us which withdraws, avoids, and denies our true Self. Others maintain codependence is a disease or illness which requires psychological methodologies and sometimes medical intervention! To assume an illness one must demonstrate a physiological, psychological, or emotional dysfunction; therefore, to label one who nurtures and cares deeply for others codependent under this rationale would commit 99% of our female population to pathology! Only when one is nurturing others to the exclusion of themselves can the ill effects of codependency be labeled unhealthy.
One of the latest definitions of what constitutes a codependent personality comes from a group of professionals who spent several hours of deliberation to confirm: "Co-dependency is a pattern of painful dependency on compulsive behaviors and on approval from others in an attempt to find safety, self-worth and identity. Recovery is possible." This is a good working definition; however, we must remember, codependency is an individual game played by two. We must not forget it takes two to form a codependent relationship.
As much as I desired not to “be a codependent” like my mother, I certainly found myself in that position with my alcoholic son. It took all the strength and several years to break my learned habit of codependent behavior. You can read more about my struggles with my son in my newest recovery book, Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery, released May 2010. [If you like this article please share below with your friends on Facebook, Twitter, etc.]
Love & Light,
Barbara~
January 29, 2011
Now on E-Readers
I am writing today with news on my latest recovery book Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery. This potent look at our nation's addiction population, and those who have loved ones with an addiction, is fast becoming the "book to read" in the addiction recovery arena.
This book is now available as an E-reader through several avenues! Here are two links where this book can be purchased for as little as $9.99 as an E-reader. Thank you for helping to promote this healing new book and for your support and sharing of it to your friends!
Amazon's "Kindle Reader"
Barnes & Noble's "Nook Reader"
Love & Light,
Barbara~
This book is now available as an E-reader through several avenues! Here are two links where this book can be purchased for as little as $9.99 as an E-reader. Thank you for helping to promote this healing new book and for your support and sharing of it to your friends!
Amazon's "Kindle Reader"
Barnes & Noble's "Nook Reader"
Love & Light,
Barbara~
January 11, 2011
New Addiction Newsletter--New Book Review
I wanted to let you all know of a new Blog/Newsletter called "Addiction Professional." It contains many topics all associated with the journey of recovery from alcohol and/or drug addiction. On this new online paper, I found a wonderful Review of Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery! I feel honored to receive this praise for a book that virtually wrote itself with the help of so many contributors. Here is the Review:
"Storytelling has the power to move people toward understanding and inspiration in a way therapy cannot. Aware of storytelling’s magic, Barbara Sinor has assembled a powerful collection of recovery stories to help those struggling with addiction and recovery in “Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery: Twenty True Stories from the Soul” (Modern History Press, 2010).
When attempting recovery from alcohol, substance abuse, or any addiction, stories of how others have succeeded can be priceless. Stories are the basis of the “Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous,” one of the first and most successful recovery programs. Barbara Sinor has created a “Big Book” for the twenty-first century with twenty true stories of people dealing with addiction, undergoing recovery, and dealing with relapses. While pain and frustration fill many of these pages, so does enough hope to inspire any reader. Beyond the stories, Dr. Sinor provides insight into the steps from addiction to recovery by pulling from behavioral theory, recovery philosophy, new understandings from the world of physics, and spiritual development.
These true stories were collected from drug addicts and alcoholics as well as many authors who have written about the difficulties and ultimate successes of their recoveries. Interwoven throughout the book is the journal of Barbara’s son, illuminating his journey from alcoholism to recovery. Barbara also details the difficulties she and her husband experienced in witnessing their son’s journey.
In the book’s introduction, Barbara writes, “Addicted or not, we all have stories to tell.” Whether the reader is a codependent wishing to help an addicted loved one, or an addict him or herself, this powerful book grows with each story as readers come to understand the truth of addiction, how it affects people in different and similar ways, and how it is possible not only to choose recovery, but ultimately, to find a new day filled with hope and freedom from addiction. Although individual stories cover a myriad of substances, including alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, heroin, barbiturates, and amphetamines, the reader will begin to discover a thread of humanity which binds us all, addicted or not.
Reviewers rave about “Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery.” Ken Seeley, author of “Face It and Fix It” states, “These heart-wrenching and ultimately heartwarming stories provide the inspiration for each one of us to know that recovery works.” Leslie Lovejoy, author of “Create Your Health Using the Five Keys to Wellness” testifies, “one is struck both with the pain and suffering that was experienced, and also the hope for a healthier future.” And Elaine DiNucci of Stanford University calls the book “gut-wrenching…The stories are riveting, each starting out with family history that is inevitably pivotal to the storyteller’s current situation. A must read.”"
Here is the link to the new Blog/Newsletter: Addiction Professional
"Storytelling has the power to move people toward understanding and inspiration in a way therapy cannot. Aware of storytelling’s magic, Barbara Sinor has assembled a powerful collection of recovery stories to help those struggling with addiction and recovery in “Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery: Twenty True Stories from the Soul” (Modern History Press, 2010).
When attempting recovery from alcohol, substance abuse, or any addiction, stories of how others have succeeded can be priceless. Stories are the basis of the “Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous,” one of the first and most successful recovery programs. Barbara Sinor has created a “Big Book” for the twenty-first century with twenty true stories of people dealing with addiction, undergoing recovery, and dealing with relapses. While pain and frustration fill many of these pages, so does enough hope to inspire any reader. Beyond the stories, Dr. Sinor provides insight into the steps from addiction to recovery by pulling from behavioral theory, recovery philosophy, new understandings from the world of physics, and spiritual development.
These true stories were collected from drug addicts and alcoholics as well as many authors who have written about the difficulties and ultimate successes of their recoveries. Interwoven throughout the book is the journal of Barbara’s son, illuminating his journey from alcoholism to recovery. Barbara also details the difficulties she and her husband experienced in witnessing their son’s journey.
In the book’s introduction, Barbara writes, “Addicted or not, we all have stories to tell.” Whether the reader is a codependent wishing to help an addicted loved one, or an addict him or herself, this powerful book grows with each story as readers come to understand the truth of addiction, how it affects people in different and similar ways, and how it is possible not only to choose recovery, but ultimately, to find a new day filled with hope and freedom from addiction. Although individual stories cover a myriad of substances, including alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, heroin, barbiturates, and amphetamines, the reader will begin to discover a thread of humanity which binds us all, addicted or not.
Reviewers rave about “Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery.” Ken Seeley, author of “Face It and Fix It” states, “These heart-wrenching and ultimately heartwarming stories provide the inspiration for each one of us to know that recovery works.” Leslie Lovejoy, author of “Create Your Health Using the Five Keys to Wellness” testifies, “one is struck both with the pain and suffering that was experienced, and also the hope for a healthier future.” And Elaine DiNucci of Stanford University calls the book “gut-wrenching…The stories are riveting, each starting out with family history that is inevitably pivotal to the storyteller’s current situation. A must read.”"
Here is the link to the new Blog/Newsletter: Addiction Professional
January 09, 2011
New Addiction Newsletter
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!
I hope you all had lots of fun and laughter during the Holiday Season. Where I live in northern California, we do not often get snow in the winter but recently we received about four inches! It was so peaceful and calm even the deer on our back hill looked posed and unreal.
Recently, I found a Newsletter surrounding the topic of Addiction Recovery of all kinds. Please check it out and let me know what you think: Addiction Daily
Tales of Addiction and Inspiration for Recovery is selling widely around the world... It warms my heart that this book is helping so many others on their journey. It has been released in E-Reader form also for $9.99!
Love & Light,
Barbara~
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